Awakening Your Feminine Energy - with Eliska Vaea

In this episode, The Secure Feminine talks with Eliska Vaea, the queen of embodied guidance and leadership, for a delicious conversation about Awakening Your Inner Feminine. They share how growing up in masculine-led environments led them to suppress their emotions and intuition and not listen to their bodies' guidance.

The Secure Feminine and Eliska discuss the tools and practices that have helped them reconnect with their feminine essence, including meditation, yoga, breathwork, emotional release, and embodiment work. Eliska opens up about the health challenges that prompted her journey of self-discovery.

The Secure Feminine and Eliska guide listeners on awakening more feminine energy. They also announce upcoming offerings focused on womb wisdom, intuition, breathwork and emotional release.

Through intimate storytelling and sisterhood, this inspiring conversation provides insight and motivation for anyone looking to awaken their feminine guidance.

Follow Eliska on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eliska.vaea
Follow The Secure Feminine here: https://thesecurefeminine.com

We talk:
🌸 Womb wisdom
🌼 Listening to your intuition
🌸 Creating space to feel your emotions
🌼 Societal conditioning of masculine energy
🌸 Meditation, Yoga, Breathwork
🌼 Calling in wealth and abundance

For info on Eliska's Womb Wealth masterclass - contact her at https://www.instagram.com/eliska.vaea/

For details about BODY+SOUL EXPANSION workshop (now called REVIVE!) in London, UK, check out: https://thesecurefeminine.com

Both The Secure Feminine and Eliska work online, supporting clients around the world. So, if you wish to connect more with your body, be guided by your intuition, feel more at ease with your emotions, or call in love and abundance through your body, we welcome you to reach out and ask about our 1:1 and group offers.

Much love!


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Transcript

Hello, everybody, we're gonna be talking about awakening your feminine energies with my dear friend and colleague, Eliska. Hi, everyone. I was just saying, I came from a corporate background, a very sort of masculine type of upbringing. And I found that I kept burning out. Also, it wasn't serving me in relationships, I really wanted to be with a strong man. And all the men I dated, seem to sort of clash with me, that needs to be the polarity of the masculine and the feminine for balance and sexual chemistry and all of the beautiful things. And both of us were bringing a lot of masculine, there wasn't much room for the feminine. So let's, let's talk about the feminine. So welcome, Eliska. Thank you for joining me. Hey, Natalie. And hi, everyone, again, I really love how you're starting our conversation with, you know, how we were, and it's a reflection of our world, right. So whatever we have been living in maybe some of you who are watching are still in that paradigm of pushing, forcing, trying to make it through the day. That is all a way that we were programmed. And I was not an an exception from that. Yeah, I grew up in a tiny village in Czech, and my family, they are all like, okay, nine to five, we are working, we are needing to make money survive and make it through the day, in certain ways. Like, for me it, it did look like I mean, they all seem to be happy on the outside, right. But as for me, as I was growing up, I knew that there was something off that there is another way of being another way of feeling or experiencing life. So I decided to explore that for myself. And I used to be a professional athlete. So I was in that world of competing and muscle up and you gotta do it all. And so it really, you know, was not a like, right now, when when you were talking to me earlier, you're like, you're such an embodiment of the feminine, and you're so sweet. And so like, yeah, it was a trip. So, I, I really feel that up, all the way from the bottom of our school systems of just the nuclear families that our western world is based on. It's all like it's starting to deep, deep, deep in there. Right? When we look at tribal cultures, it's all about the nourishment of feminine connecting to nature, going with the cycles of nature. And that, to me, is an inspiration of what and how we can live. And if we are not living in alignment with nature, which is Mother Nature is the feminine, right? Then our bodies will tell us Yes, and it will tell us through an injury which I had, we can talk about it, it can tell us through some illness and sickness. It can tell us through anxious anxiety or depression. Specifically for women, it's often connected to our period or menstrual cycle and irregularities, not being able to have kids having endometriosis and all these other things that may be some of you have experiences with so there's so many different ways that our bodies are constantly speaking to us and want us to listen and to come into harmony. And so that that is kind of where we're what I have been exploring and journeying with in the last years. Wow, amazing. Thank you so much for sharing and I really resonate with some aspects of those when I reflect back on how I was living and the things that were my body was trying to tell me before I journeyed into my more feminine energies I, I would get injuries frequently. I was also training in many sports and I would always be like twisting my ankles or spraining something or pulling muscles. And then there was a period where actually my, my body went into what do we call it? Like chronic fatigue, I had a period of chronic fatigue, where I couldn't even like walk up the stairs, or even walking to a bus stop was exhausting. And that was the moment for me where I was like, okay, something needs to change, right? Like, this was my big wake up call. And I'm wondering, did you have a similar moment? Was there a moment for you where you were like, wait, I need to do this differently. I had a few moments like that. And I think, you know, when you don't listen the first time then it will give it to you the second time, maybe the third time. Yeah. And then slowly, slowly real learning like that. I always got it like the universe will always slap you if you're not listening and, and the body also the body speaks in such a gentle ways. And if we learn to listen to that deeper knowing to the intuition, as he also said, we'll talk about that today, then we don't need the bigger slabs. Yeah, but the thing is that we are most of us, at least me, I grew up in a way that was not connected to feeling intuition to be guided by my heart by my womb by my Yoni to it was more like, you just do whatever everyone else is doing and listen to other people. And, and so, oh, I was doing that. And the first time that my body said something was wrong was when I was professional athlete in high school. And I did a long distance run from Venice in Czech Republic. That's where I'm from, to Italy. So there's Venice in Czech and Venice in Italy. And we did we ran over, over the Alps. Like all the way from I don't it was like, think three days running. Wow. And exchanging. And so I was with all these, like sexy athletes, you know, as part of this really amazing group of people. And I peed myself while I was running. And I tried to like, oh, you know, nothing happened. And I just went with it. Oh, it's like a sweat. Nothing. But I knew, like something is wrong, like what's going on? I did not, you know, give birth. I think at the time I didn't have sex. I wasn't like 80 year old grandma. That time I was thinking, okay, incontinence. That's what happens to you when you grow old, grow old. It's a constant these concepts I don't have in my life anymore. But that's what I was thinking at that time. And, and so that was the first big awakening for me of something is happening with your body with your womb with your, like, feminine health that is causing. Yeah, this incontinence. So I went on a discovery journey to figure out what that is. And I went to the World gynaecologist at that time, and they're like, Oh, you just have to do key goals and here's some pills. And if that doesn't work, you just got to have a surgery and it's fine. Like I'm 60 I'm gonna have this surgery like what? So I decided to let that all go of the suggestions and was like, Okay, I'm just gonna take it into my hands and start to listen and then as like you as that wish, or even I would, I would call it like a my soul guidance. I moved to the States. Then I went, I happened to bump into all these beautiful women and boom, shamans are boom healers and so to learn how to connect, and these are the practices that I now teach because no one I wish someone taught me those when I when I was growing up, even like before it happened, you know, like it was really some of these things I wish because they're meant to be passed on from generation to joy from our grandmothers to mothers to us. And on and on, and like somewhere we just forgot. And now it's time to bring that wisdom back. Oh, so beautiful hearing you speak of this, thank you for sharing that. Ah, yeah, the remembering, right, the remembering of the ancestral wisdom, the, the deep embodied wisdom, the universal wisdom that is available to us when we tune in and listen, and yeah, can open ourselves to that. Yeah, I am noticing an awareness that it's a very privileged state for us to be in to have the spaciousness to be able to break out of the masculine survival, and to create the space really, for the feminine to truly flourish and open. And I don't know, I'd love to know, in a moment, your lineage and how you feel it's possible that you've created this space for yourself, I know that, for me, my parents generation were just after the war, and everybody was still very much in survival. And, you know, there wasn't room for feeling and womb guidance, and, you know, sort of doing anything other than making money eating, sleeping and repeating. It was really, you know, this is this is what we've got to do, which is, of course, the masculine, very driven very, you know, survival gotta gotta go. And I feel so privileged that in my generation, there's there's not been, I mean, obviously, we have quite a major war going on, well, couple of quite major wars going on right now. But these are more recent times for us. And certainly, in my upbringing, in my, you know, teens, 20s 30s, there were no major wars that impacted me directly. So my nervous system had the space to decondition, to learn what it feels like to be truly safe, and learn what it feels like to not be anxious. And yeah, like in permanent survival mode, and I'm really curious, what's your story with this, I really love to bring this into the context of the world world and where we are. And as you say, we are privileged to be able to walk this earth in this way at this time. And at the same time, I, when I zoom out, I guarantee you that throughout the history, there always has been like pieces of, of Heaven on Earth, meaning people who have been thriving through whatever times, and this is not to disregard what is happening, it's more of bringing the awareness, ness to we have the capacity and the power and the wisdom when we choose to remember to create our life in our experience. And there is some Divine Alignment of why you are able to be where you are, and have this you know, capacity to unravel your nervous system the same for me like every day, I'm grateful, grateful to be where I'm at, and be serving in a way that that feels right at the moment when others don't have the capacity and at the same time bringing it back into this is the best that I can do for this earth at this moment. And the planet needs us really in our again, full and body mend of what it means to be a woman. And it really is up to each one of us. And if you're watching and you're like ah but I have to go to work and I have kids and I've been working with so many women who have that experience of life being like, but this is it and then unravelling even just a moment, every day suddenly it it catches a momentum because without a change that is with each choose. Nothing can change in your life. Right? Like you. You can repeat the same cycles over and over again. So I think even just the awareness of we grew up in, in the world that was affected by, you know, the wars and whatever the state and our families carry that karma with them. And we are the brave souls that chose to just hop in and be like, we're gonna help you guys and we're just gonna make it much nicer and, and bringing the wisdom back to remember what it means to be a woman deeply, fully, and decondition that with every everything that we do, and for me, it's still an unresolved bullying, I don't think it ever stops because there is a constant bombardment of the pressure of the society, the and what, how it's forcing us to be. And so that's why our practices and daily devotion to our room, our hearts, our bodies is the most important because that's where we gain our server entity, as people. And from there, the change can happen. And that's how we can help. Yeah, thank you. Yeah, it's, everything starts with a first step. And yeah, I, I just as you were talking, I was remembering back long ago, when I first discovered meditation that you know, I first started going to a meditation centre, and practising weekly and then I took a course where I was practising daily, and slowly started incorporating more periods of slowness, more periods of inwards, feeling. And then, and then I started to want to have a better relationship with my emotions. Because, of course, when we slow down and we start feeling, we're going to start feeling all the stuff we haven't been feeling. And for me, that was a lot of sadness and anger and frustration. Yeah, a lot of unprocessed stuff from the past. And then yeah, I learned these tools to really express and release my emotions, so that so that I could clear the backlog. So that, yeah, I can actually be more comfortable with my day to day experience feeling what's in me now, and not carry all of this baggage from the past. And I'm curious, you know, what's your journey been with emotions? Has it been a big thing for you? Have you always been this beautiful, serene, you know, watery, very fluid a woman or you know, what, tell me your journey Oh, I wish I could do like, get show you a picture of myself years ago, be just like, uptight, stuffed with things that I didn't want to feel. And I remember when I was little, I would literally, like hit my bed with my, with my foot when I was angry, like to like, you know, and then I feel like that there was a part there was a journey through growing up of suppressing the emotions with because there was no safe place to learn how to move them. And so I definitely had a big load of all the things all the full baggage and it was big and it was challenging to to start feeling like for the first time yeah. Not it's not an easy not an easy thing someone says it's so simple, you know, just breathe and feel feel like shit, like all of these millions of years of what I have not felt I'm meant to feel now. Okay. And so our experience says in the past, you know, they bring they the I call it like we all carry. I don't like using the word trauma. It's more like experiences from the past that carry an imprint and an emotion that stuck in our body then then, if it's still there, it just repeats itself until it because it wants to be resolved. So whatever experiences we're having right now or in our life are and we don't like it They're usually pointing towards these hidden bubbles to poke them, right. And not many people will talk about that opening these treasure boxes because there is treasure within through the stuck emotions, there's always an expansion and light and our true essence. But it comes with a lot of grief. Right? So it goes like the emotional scale of frustrated, angry than sad. And then deeply grieving of all the parts all the life that we didn't get to live because of that all the relationships we didn't get to experience because of that. All just just a big box, or like big, big bag of greed that we need to feel. And it only happens when we create a safe space for our body, which most of us don't even know what that means. Yeah. So I am definitely, as you said, yet, not like this flowy me is a journey of many, many years of dancing, actually breathing, moving my body and slowly little by little learning to feel because we don't also want to overdo it and then totally freeze and like freak out. Which also happens a lot. Right. So yeah, I wonder what what that how, how you how your journey was? Or what what that brings in you? Yeah, thank you. Um, it reminds me that when I first started my awakening journey, if you will, when, by going to a counsellor, or a therapist, you know, like a one to one talk therapy. I realised I, I was depressed. I had a beautiful life. I had everything society told me, that should make me happy, you know, job, boyfriend, stepchildren, house, holidays, money, all of the things. And yet I was actually depressed. So I went to a therapist, and it probably took me six months of weekly therapy. Before I could even cry. Six months of learning to trust this complete stranger and talking in about all the things I didn't want to talk about. And deciding is this person safe? Is she going to shame me? Is she going to shut me down? Is she gonna make fun of me? Is she going to break me as she you know, whatever all of the mind stories are about why it's not safe to show my vulnerability. And yeah, after about six months, eventually the tears slowly came. But you know, really slowly, like little drips. But I would find I would have an hour session. And then I couldn't turn off the tap, the tap was open, but I left the session and the tap was still open. And I would often cry all of the way home. And yeah, probably took me another hour after afterwards to turn off the tap. And I just kept thinking, when is it going to stop one of these tears going to stop? You know, how much crying do I need to do? And the truth was, it probably took me a while. You know, it took me a while I don't know the timeframe precisely. But it did stop. Eventually it did stop. And I learned to cry more freely. And I learned to you know, rather than just let like two or three tears out, I let a lot of tears out and then it came more easily and it passed more more quickly. But yeah, I'm actually holding a workshop at the end of February in the UK in London to teach some of these things. To teach some of the tools that helped me learn to express emotion. And another big one I'm wondering elliptica Whether you've used breath work breath work has been another one that's big for me and I'm also holding a workshop around breath work the end of February as well. Yeah, is breathwork something you've journeyed with or tell me the tools that you've used? I heard you mentioned dance and some other things I love. I love that you're going to be teaching it. So definitely everyone who can join because it's so important. And for me, you know when I was listening to you, it's usually the first thing or what we invest Stan world, we know we go to a psychologist or psychiatrist, and we just talk. And that's great. To say something to actually, yeah, and to kind of make sense of things, but most of the time, our mind is in the way of what actually is happening. And often when I work with my clients, it's, there is a little bit of sharing. And that's very important for our connection. But what's the, the most important is actually being in the body with what is happening with the energy and the energetic imprints that are moving. And for that, we often don't even need words, the words are actually in the way of true healing. And in I know that a lot of people are also a little bit allergic to the word healing. And that's like all over the place. And what does that actually mean? And is it possible, and from my own experience, I really know that healing is possible. It is not like a forever journey of healing. Because there is a moment that comes that when you did decide to go through the embodiment, that you land in your body, and you're capable of sharing your essence. And that is a moment where you are not a walking puppet anymore. And you're a sovereign being that has healed from the past conditioning, it does not mean that there won't be challenges and like, you know, universe always wants us to expand. So it brings us things to expand into and pass through. But there won't be a switch that I promise where an any one of you decides to walk this path that you've experienced, you'll be like, Whoa, this what Alisha was talking about, this is the moment where I feel me. And when I'm living me, and I'm even surprised that I'm leaving and living my wildest dreams, and it's happening. And it is because of the embodiment practices that are not in the mind, but in the living experience. And I was just recently looking at where did I actually start, you know, like what was besides the my womb, and my pelvic floor, speaking and being like, Excuse me, this guy, this is not the way and then I had two knee surgeries because I used to compete in wakeboarding. And so that kind of cut me off. And instead of training and in wakeboarding all the time, I started to do yoga proficiently, like three times a day. Yeah. Like, okay, let me just like I needed to replace this time, right with something. But eventually, I went to this one yin yoga class, and it was a hip opening, and I started bawling. And it's like, a story that you probably hear, hear, you know, it's just a little bit of hip openers, and you feel something. Yeah. I was like, Okay, I guess Yoga is not just about sports and handstands and like millions of sun salutations. But it's more than that. And so, that was the first I would say, conscious, embodiment practice that I started to do, that I started to connect with my breath and movement in a way that felt nourishing instead of doing it for the handstand, or the Yeah, it's just, I still wanted to be the best Yogi in the world. But there was another dimension and then breathwork then breathwork and definitely and dance and, and moving. Moving in all the ways learning to move emotions in a safe way. Yes, that that is not about projecting on to others, but actually owning it and and knowing that whatever we are feeling that it probably is not at all about the person that's in front of us, but something that happened to us when you were like one to seven and Before that, so absolutely. All the things and I love all the tools that we have specifically breathwork dance and sound vibration. Yeah. So important. Yeah. Thank you. Oh, amazing. Yeah, we could talk about this for hours. I feel I feel that I really I really feel that I are. And I hope that anyone who's watching can can feel an inspiration to even just now, you know, there's a bit, take a breath, and soften and surrender into the experience instead of being like, whoa, had actually received some of the yummy energy that we are brewing right now together. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. There's love, I love what you were saying about sort of the beginning of your journey. I also really resonate that, I think, for me, I started with meditation, and then yoga practices. And then yeah, I also got into breathwork. after that. And then after breathwork, I went to a school called Esther, I don't know liszka. If you've also done Esther, is the International School of Temple Arts where they actually, in their level one training really teach you how to express emotion in a cathartic way, which isn't suitable for everybody. But it's, it's a good start, particularly if if people have been if if the listeners have been very in the masculine energy, and it's actually the tools, the emotional release tools from Esther that I that I teach in, in the workshop I'm doing at the end of February, which is called Body and Soul expansion, as well as a shamanic breathwork journey. So people can find that information on the link on my bio, it's body and soul expansion. 24th of February would love to see you in London. And yeah, this is also something I work with, in my one to one practice with my clients, a lot of embodiment as well as a lot of mindset work as well to find the balance of the masculine and feminine. And, Eliska, I know you are currently in Bali, would you like to talk about how people can connect with you what your offerings are, if people are drawn to work with you? How can they reach out to you and what's available. I love that. And I love that you have an in person event, it's beautiful. And well, if you're in Bali, by any chance, which is the most beautiful island for our feminine blossoming, it's really so luscious and abundant. That I do have womb wisdom workshop that's coming up on the first of February. And besides that, I feel that true, you know, when you when you start journeying through this wisdom of our bodies and remembrance, then there is something that happens, that is beyond our capacity of like, even understanding and the portal of miracles have synchronicities of just really living the embodied feminine, like, what does that mean? What does embodied feminine means? It means the, it's like being plugged into source and constantly overflowing with creation, right? It is the grace of the Goddess. And with that, I would love to invite you to a masterclass that I'm going to be holding that's called womb wealth. And that is about how to actually remember the abundance and the wealth of the womb when we connect to the womb, because it is also the source of all creation, all the things that like as the feminine the flow that is constant, and that includes also money. That includes relationships, that includes our projects, because what is Boom Boom is all and it births it births, not only babies, but it births everything in the world it births new worlds, it creates new worlds and new our projects and how we can really they fully embody and bring the things that we are meant to birth into the world. So we Boom wealth is a masterclass where we will touch on all of these topics and go a little bit deeper into how to. And that will be happening that will be happening mid, mid February. So definitely just hop on my Instagram and it will eventually be there where you can you can sign up. Yeah, I guess right now people, people should follow you. And then they'll see when that pops up on your Instagram, mid February when wealth. And for those of you who don't know, Eliska is actually I'm not sure if you're a six figure business owner or seven figure figure business owner, but she's doing well with her abundance. So definitely, the womb wealth. There's so much magic there, as you say it's embodiment its sole purpose, its heart expansion, and it's also financial abundance as well. All of the creations are there. So I love that you're offering that that class will that be? Yeah, will that be a paid? Or paid masterclass? Or what? Tell me more, this will be a great offering. And yes, and as you are saying, like, I am well on to the seven figure, whatever, Mark, but honestly, I don't think that that matters. And I've never really been big into like, Oh, this is what I am making, and actually through the container that we were both in. I was like, I think our mentor, this made us look at numbers, I'm like, wow, you know, I really have done amazing, and it is it made me look at how these embodiment practices helped me to, to do that. And that, that all of this wound wealth and financial abundance actually came through the wisdom of my room, the guidance that I received and the intuition that I followed, that was not like, forced, or, you know, in the old paradigm of, I have to go to work. But this was really through the source of creation. And it was not easy to do that to break the pattern of the past and my my family to be the first business owner of my lineage. And, you know, it's really, I feel like it we again, we are brave souls, and we are meant to be sharing our light sharing our wisdom, and one way to do it. And the most important way, whatever you want to do in the world is to get into the body. And I feel that that's both of us sharing in our own beautiful ways. And please join us. I think I'm gonna be there. It sounds amazing. Beautiful. Okay. Thank you so much, Eliska. It's been really beautiful chatting with you. And you and I are actually going to go live again on your profile next week on Tuesday. So for those of you who've really enjoyed this conversation, there will be more slightly different flavour more relationship focused, I think be so follow both of us. Stay tuned, and you'll get an alert when that happens. And I'm really excited to continue this conversation with you my beautiful, darling. Have an amazing evening. I know it's it's evening time over in Bali. And yeah, I look forward to chatting with you soon. Thank you so much, Natalie, I enjoyed it. And I would also love to extend the invitation to join us next week, because we will continue and I feel dive a little bit deeper into the topics that you bring, which are the relationships and attachment styles and all the other Juju that we did not get to touch on today. So yes, please and have a beautiful day. I'm gonna go to bed and enjoy the afterglow of our connection. Thank you